You Always Have Options

A calendar page from the 2016 Dr. Wayne Dyer calendar for February 1st:

“Your corner of freedom, even when others are manipulating or imprisoning you, is your ability to choose the thoughts you have within your mind.”

Sound familiar?

There are always options regarding how you/we view situations, issues–things in our lives that we feel we have no control over.

(Please, take the time to mull this over in your mind . . . and heart.)

Let’s begin to change our thoughts together and see if, perhaps, our thoughts can change the situations we find ourselves in.

You might be saying, “Yeah, right!  My thoughts can’t change the tangible elements in my life in my favor.”  And my response to this is, “Yes they can!”

I know this because of all the books I’ve read, videos I’ve seen AND because of personal experience.  You see, THOUGHTS are THINGS as Mike Dooley at will help you understand.  Thoughts are energy . . . EVERY THING is ENERGY!

If you don’t believe me, it’s certainly understandable because I didn’t always believe the way I do.  I had to research and read and find out for myself.  If you want to open your mind and you like to learn about new things, there’s so much out there for you to delve into.  If you don’t, then just pretend that your thoughts are extremely powerful and manifest in your life over time and see what happens.  Let’s call it an experiment and begin to think and focus on something you want in your life except, with a twist, visualize that it’s already a part of your every day living.  Smell it, hear it, taste it, describe it with as much detail as you can imagine and FEEL what it feels like to have this in your life.  Let me know what happens!  Again, don’t pretend that it’s on its way; believe that it has already arrived.  You, my friend, are on your way to finding your joy and anything else that you’ve come to experience on this planet.

By the way, did I mention that you are on this planet for a reason?  That’s for another blog another day.

You are loved!




Ever Feel Depressed?

There were many years that my state of being went up and down.  I would be stuck, then unstuck,  then stuck and unstuck again.  It was a rollercoaster and it was exhausting and frustrating to repeat the same emotional patterns over and over again.  Over time, I realized that as I worked through my feelings and began to have a voice in my life, that my mood lifted naturally and it became more stable over time.  For me, it was through talking with a therapist at different times in my life–when I felt most vulnerable and unstable–that helped me to release “stuff.”  Everyone has “stuff” you know.  I have it and you have it and so does the most seemingly put-together person you can think of.  So, through talking, my awareness of who I was and how I got to be this person became more acute.  As I gained more self-knowledge, I was able to say, “Oh, that doesn’t work for me and I choose to let it go” or, “I am willing to forgive that person for the hurt they caused me.”  I also would write down my thoughts over the years and this helped as well.  Anything you can do to get out your thoughts and feelings about things is a healthy way to move in the direction of being a happier person.  It just happens to you when you put in a little effort.

I’ve often said to my counselees, try doing one thing different from this day forward.  When you do the same things over and over again, guess what?  You get the same results each time.  When you change just one thing, it can change you and your life for the better.  Once you’ve incorporated a change (of habit perhaps?) that brings you, hopefully, a better result in your life, choose a new thing to change and see what happens then.  This is your life and you get to make way more choices than you can imagine.  You might feel that you have no say in your life because, maybe, you’re under 18 and your parents or guardians are in charge and have their rules that they expect you to live by.  But even so, you always have options.  You can live by the rules to earn your parents’/guardians’ trust and see where that takes you . . . often restrictions are lifted and you get to experience a little more independence.  You can choose to have a negative or sassy attitude about the things about your life you don’t like or you can look at them differently.  Take depression for example.  You can say to yourself or to the world that, “I’m depressed and there’s nothing that can fix me.”  Or, you can say, “I accept that I am stuck in my emotions right now.  This is not me.  It’s just the circumstance I find myself in.  I’m going to tell someone I trust how I’m feeling and I’m going to ask for help.  I know that this is only a temporary event in my life and that life will be good again.  It may not feel like things could be different but my intellect knows that they absolutely can and will.”  As Dr. Wayne Dyer often said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”  It’s true!

Today’s calendar quote from Dr. Christiane Northrup:

“Know that depression is anger turned inward.

When you allow yourself to feel your anger, resentment, and disappointment, your energy is mobilized and you’ll find that you’re on your way to better health.

Have the courage to feel uncomfortable emotions so that you may release them when it’s time.”








A warm WELCOME to YOU–my inspiration!

You made it!  Welcome!

I’ve been knowing for some time that you would find me, yet I had not prepared the means for you to even know that I exist.  It’s taken many comments from friends, co-workers and professors over the years to bring me to this moment of creating an opportunity for YOU to learn from my experience of being in a physical body.  It took all this time for me to believe in me and now it’s time for you to believe in YOU!

Do you ever feel disconnected?  Perhaps you feel like you don’t belong?  And it doesn’t really matter if your particular family unit is functioning well or well enough or hardly functioning at all–you still feel all alone?  This was me from at least elementary school through college and beyond.

Do some people in your life describe you with labels such as depressed? moody? loner? weird? different? strange? black sheep? . . . you get the picture.  Has anyone ever sat down with you and said, “Is there something on your mind?”  “You seem to be unhappy.  Can we talk about how you’re feeling?”  No one ever did that for me.  I know now that it’s because they didn’t know any better; that it was out of their fear that the only thing they knew to do was to call attention to the object of their fear (me) with an adjective to compartmentalize me in the hopes that their fear would go away.  I now understand them and their motivations (misplaced concern) and hold no bitterness or resentment toward them.  No one can do for you what they haven’t already learned so, guess what?  You get to be the first in your family to break patterns that you are living with every day–patterns that keep you stuck and feeling hopeless; patterns that make you question, “Why am I even here?”  “What’s the point!”  “What can I offer my Self or others that has any value?”  “What is my purpose?”

You see?  You’re not alone afterall.  Many people can relate to what you’re experiencing.  So, know this for today.  YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN YOUR STUCKNESS.

My goal and commitment to you is to write something every day so that you can share in my wisdom and life experience.  Whatever you take from it, I will leave up to YOU and The Universe!  The Universe has a way of taking care of the details once we tap into it and, somehow, The Universe (call it what you will) brought you here.

I AM so happy to make your acquaintance!

You are loved beyond measure and my dream is that you will, one day, FEEL that LOVE in every cell of your being!

Experiment of The Week:  Begin to replace negative thoughts with POSITIVE statements.

Thought:  “I can’t do anything right.”

Positive statement:  “I am good at __________. “

(Examples:  being a friend/daughter/son/brother/sister/uncle/aunt, reading, rapping, dancing, listening, being kind to animals, doodling, brushing my teeth, telling jokes, expressing myself in healthy ways (art, writing, poetry, dance, talking, texting, photographs…), doing the dishes, keeping my room neat and clean, making nachos, music, skateboarding, running…)